The nuclear family as the main unit of domesticity. Very popular in the last couple of generations of westerners, and, it seems to me, anywhere the middle classes are rich enough.
I am not into it. Two-adult houses are bad for me, a particularly corrosive type of comfort trap.
So what are the other options? In Australia, a common term for alternatives is co-living, I will use that term here. Let us look at some co-living things.
Living apart together
Not living with your romantic partner.
This is part of how I keep a romantic relationship fresh and urgent and exciting. I just found out this lifestyle is called living apart together. I wonder if there are any useful tips from other people who do that?
- Couples living apart together and why it works
- Vicki Larson, 3 Myths About Living Apart Together Relationships That Need to End
My favourite example from history is Tove Jansson and Tuulikki Pietilä
- Tove Jansson Falls in Love ‹ Literary Hub
- Tove & Tooti: a beautiful exploration of Tove Jansson’s love and life
It is an expensive lifestyle choice. In Australia there are many tax incentives to form a 2-person economic unit.
Intentionally forming a household, whatever that mean, with people who are not your romantic partner. I am especially interested in cohousing in Australia.
Parenting of kids when not being either of the 2 implicated genetic parents.
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- Cohousing: Affordable Community
- Urban planning: The built environment
- Diggers and Dreamers – Intentional Community in Britain
- Find, Join, & Learn about Intentional Community
- Intentional Community
- Phil, Co-buying property with friends (Not Australian but good generic advice)
- Escalating Signals Cut Fertility - by Robin Hanson
- The Return of Communism - by Robin Hanson
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